10 levels of heartbreak

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One would most likely thought that our hearts jive to our emotions, that’s why we sometimes hear it sound like a drum being beaten when we are excited, nervous or tired. At times, they seem to have a life of their own, like yearning to detach themselves to our veins and body. With utmost care, I do not desire to come across its literal translation which causes people to meet their eternity, except of course if your boyfriend is Edward Cullen.

Heartaches. Everyone had one heartbreaking experience. Some surpassed it, some carried it to their graves. We always incorporate heartbreak to an end of a relationship. Much to everyone’s surprise, we experience it as early as childhood. Those moments we shed our tears - only to realize they are all part of growing up – so to speak.

Level 1: Childhood Heartbreak

As a child, heartbreak means spilling an ice cream you're about to enjoy, not getting your favorite toy, having a fight with your best friend. All sorts that made you cry. Typically, those were the moments you threw tantrums, you spanked someone, you shouted so loud like you against the world. In the end, only your mom or dad's hugs and comfort will make you any better, equipped with your favorite lollipop.

Level 2: First Love Heartbreak

Growing up, we all experience to be inlove for the very first time. Sadly, most first loves are one-sided, making boys timid and girls careful. If you are an honor student, your apple-of-the-eye would probably be someone from the honor list too, making your affair a little bit of competition. Without a doubt, your parents would disagree to this. If you are an average kid, you adore that cute president of the class or the most valuable player in PE, who would sometimes go for the cheerleader type of girl or the most popular one. Like it or not, you are too young to fall in love and if I were your mom, I would not definitely allow you just like the general would do.

Level 3: Parting Ways With Friends From High School Heartbreak

Everyone had that one friend to whom they've been with for a long time since kindergarten. Every end of the school year, graduation brings tears to those who will migrate to other country or transfer to another school, as well as to the ones who will stay. Letters and photos will be given. And as much as you fear being lonely, you want them to remember you always. Jealous of their new set of friends? That’s life kid.

Level 4: Failed Exam Horror/Heartbreak

What could be worst than receiving your exam paper or report card with a big red F mark on it? Surely, it was one mood destroyer, but it is nothing compared to the horrible scenario of being scolded by your parents or be laughed at by your fellow classmates. Talk about being last in your class. Better luck next time.

Level 5: First Break-up Drama Heartbreak

Next to first love is first boyfriend, which eventually turns to what we call 'first break-up drama.' Most of the people considered their first boyfriend or girlfriend literally a guinea pig. Nevertheless, no matter how childish or immature our past relationships with them, for sure it was like the end of the world the moment we ended our connection with our first ever love. Call it a puppy love as long as you want to, still it leaves us scars that will be useful sooner or later in the next love business.

Level 6: Goodbye-forever-will-visit-you-at-the-cemetery Heartbreak

Nothing more dramatic to watch than a person weeping over the coffin of a lost loved one while "Knock, Knock, Knockin' on Heaven's Door" is playing in the background. And nothing more painful to see a family member, friend or special someone being put six feet under – with no oxygen available. That’s just too scary to imagine. Over time, we'll get through it, yet it will never be the same again without them.

Level 7: To Hire You or To Hire You Not Heartbreak

You graduated with a degree but the real challenge comes when you start to look for job interviews to get a job. The problem with that is you actually have no idea about what your future employer would look like or their impression of you. You are confident and then the next thing you know is it's been a week and still no call from them. And how in the world would you react to that silent rejection?

Level 8: You Lost Something Important Heartbreak

The horrible fact that you don't have the slightest idea where they'd gone to – may it be a book you borrowed from the school library, money bill or a thing as small as an earring. Looking for them is the most difficult thing to do for you don’t know where to start.  Gone now, gone forever.

Level 9: Soon Dying Heartbreak

Who would ever want to discover that they have a cancer, tumor, high blood and the most dangerous illnesses? No one. And it is not much of an interest to go to the doctor too to check signs and symptoms. Who would have the guts to go on knowing you still have months to live? Or days? Talk about committing a suicide.

Level 10: Great Love Heartbreak

Perfect love doesn’t always mean everything is fine and happy. It is when you two had gone through big fights yet you always end up promising each other sweet forevers, no matter what happens.

*In most memories that I could remember, I've been through all of these kinds of heartbreaks. I've been betrayed by my best friend, rejected by my first love, transferred to another school away from my friends, failed an exam, broke-up with my first boyfriend three times, attended some funerals of people close to me, got no job two months after my graduation, lost my lovable dog, been so sick. The last heartbreak goes to the person to whom I'd spend my life with forever. In time, he'll witness every teardrop of mine as I encounter other kinds of breaking moments. He'll be part of it too, I'm sure. But what if all this time of my life, I used to depend to myself and now that I have him, would it be fair to share the same sentiments with him? Or keeping all the sorrows will make a better option? What?

*Follow your heart but take your brain with you - I have long since known this quotation. Evaluating myself, I know I've made smart decisions in my life. Otherwise, I will not reach this maturity of my state. I surpassed every broken promises, betrayal, sharp words. My solutions are credited to my everyday reflection. I've learned to analyze problems and foresee its consequences if I do plan A or plan B. This so far is the greatest mystery I have yet to solve – how to truly love a person, how to accept things within your relationship, how to handle worst situations, or how to bid goodbye if it does come to an end. Nonetheless, the best part of it is you will learn to overlook every negativities that come your way because you know, while you hold his hand, there is another Hand that holds the two of you. Big hands enough to guide and protect you, Hand as tough as the experience from the scar inflicted to Him, Hand that embraces you since your first heartbreak. Look up, you’ll see how he had broken the hearts of many just to save mankind. Great love, it is.

What could be your other experience of heartbreak?